Vision of Judaism
The secret of parenting is to understand the nuances of the nature of their children and educate them according to that nature.
The King Solomon says in Proverbs:
"If educate (Chanoch) the child according to his nature, when grow up will not abandon what it learned."
Although no children alike, all children should learn that stealing, for example, is wrong! The personalities and temperaments can vary, but the need to be good, compassionate and ethical is universal. A child may be shy, another creative, and another yet be impatient. All, however, need to learn what it means to be a "Mensch" - A good person.
Jewish parents are urged not only to teach children the skill needed for life, like eating with fork and knife or use the computer - but also to teach them values and ideals that will bring meaning to a life of their children.
The essence of Jewish parenthood-motherhood is teach the child engage a saluter education. The Talmud says: At so the child learns speak, the parents should teaching the Torah and Shema.
What does it mean to teach *Torah and *Shema?
So like do not let them grow to decide whether if them can learn read or write, we should not suspend the teaching of values and character until they are old enough to decide for themselves what principles require sacrifices, what principles are negotiable and which are not morally.
And this is the true spirit of Hanukkah: the soul of a Jew can never be extinguished, but depends on us, of the education we pass on to our children, how much they will shine or remain only as a spark waiting for call to increase the potential burning..., Eternally!
*Shema - Deuteronomy 6: 4 - 9, Deuteronomy 11: 13 - 21, Numbers 15: 37- 41 http://www.jewfaq.org/prayer/shema.htm
*Torah - Old Testament