Aug 24, 2011
All had in common - besides the great talent - the escapism, loneliness, insecurity, fear of life, and going into addictions dangerous. Basically they did not want applause, but attention; not the fame, but caring. Their pains and conflicts were wounds deep and painful.
When I thought about Amy, remembered the words of Carl Gustav Jung, the famous psychiatrist. He said - "The top talents are the most lovely and often the most dangerous fruits of humanity, they are stuck to the branches much thin, they can fall easily.
The fact is that we achieve true success when we are successful in our relationships, not very successful if we have only money or fame in what we do.
There are several obligations that we must fulfill to be a real success:
If you are a caring friend in the next hour of need
If you is a good son, by treating their parents pleasantly.
If is spouse and do support and understanding at all times.
A parent devoted and caring.
If you are honest and law abiding...
Those who contribute to the community, not just money or art but with time and positive effort, those who develop happy relationships, they are real success stories and rewarding way in live to count and be good role models for the younger (May G-d grant it).
You can be very good at it. Or maybe not. But most important is to be good as a human being: when it comes to the human being. A failed entrepreneur can also be a great success story, and a struggling actor can be a big star.
"Teach up a child from an early age and will respect you when grow up and will be good for you in your old age."
Aug 17, 2011
|You have five minutes or an entire lifetime to be an exemple|
11. Create moments alone with each one:
Encourage exclusives occasions between husband and wife, mother or father with a son/daughter, among other possibilities, facilitates communication and understanding among family members, promotes understanding between persons and facilitates the creation of feelings of intimacy and trust.
Besides, confidences are always different between the sexes. The conversation of a child boy with his father and vice versa are often unique.
12. Be you an example:
Your attitudes in the family context can generate admiration for yours relatives. When there is this admiration, the possibility for bonds is greater.
In relationships there is the common intention between the parties to add values and is only possible to obtain these values, usually, from someone we can have admiration,
“It is not incumbent upon you to complete the work, but neither are you at liberty to desist from it" (Avot 2:21)
Aug 12, 2011
|Good attitude erase the past mistakes|
9. Do not wait for the weekend.
Try to remember to tighten the bonds, always. A phone call, email, or even a message by phone to say hello, may be displays of affection that make a difference.
With greater interaction time the people will know each other better and add the other person's strengths, discovering affinities and, thereafter, strengthen the ties that can lead to the construction of more stable bonds.
10. Acknowledge your own mistakes.
Nobody is perfect in the family, including parents. Assume failuresmay require a change, since the person reflected on his action anda next similar situation, try to act differently.
This behavior flexibility generates confidence in the person to whomis related, because it gets the idea that the error may not be repeated. However, don’t apologize too much or be defensive. The key is to be action-oriented and focus on the future. How will your misstep be remedied? What will you do differently going forward?
Aug 11, 2011
It is unpleasant to find a person at home with a frown, unwilling to talk. Try to imagine that, when you go through the door of entry, the concerns of the work will stay on the outside.
The family can be a great way to distraction! In a few moments, you can also try leave the work and other commitments in the background. This attitude may indicate appreciation of family contact, such a stance as if the person is telling: You all are important to me.
8. Bet on the affectivity.
There are several ways of expressing it, worth using their creativity to adapt them to time and routine that you have.
Do not forget the physical affection. A simple hug for comfort is a very strong bond. The affection may be a way of bringing people together. From it, other feelings central to the relations established are formed, such as; respect, understanding, tolerance, among others.
Aug 8, 2011
5. Create moments of leisure with all
Family members serve as support in difficult times, but they can be wonderful companions for moments of distraction and fun. When the children are small it is easier: Just invite and everyone will want. However, when the children grow and become more independent, these occasions are increasingly uncommon. When the family cultivates these habits early on, generates the possibility of preserving recreational activities together in more mature stages.
6. Try to be available
No need to be a superhero: It is impossible to be available all the time and the family needs understand, especially the children. However, demonstrate willingness to talk and give attention, where possible, is essential. The parents should make it showing with words; "Share with me" - "I am your partner" or "If you need, I'm here" are phrases that help the children find a moment to talk.
Aug 4, 2011
It is important to create spaces that will promote an bonding. We live in the imperative of lack of time, but is necesary to worry about creating moments to live with our family members.
To circumvent this lack of time, the programs can be with set daily tasks like household activities, for exemple, which allow exchange of experiences. Domestics activities help all family members to appropriate the belongings of the home, learning together the tasks and activities that children will have to make in the future.
4. Encourage the dialogue:
This is one fundamental practices. There is no way to live together under one roof if there is no conversation or if the family members do not share their feelings and experiences of life. The dialog allows us to know what another is thinking or feeling and is the best way to resolve the disagreements.
Family members should be the best natural partners for children, parents and grandparents. Ask for grandparents to tell how their lives were and what they think of life as a whole. It is an interesting way to co-build the family history through the older protagonists. This allows to know how habits have changed and that life is full of obligations and responsibilities, no matter what social position or present situation.
Aug 3, 2011
Keep the bonding is an advantage, but again is not always easy. "There are families who find themselves a lot, but people are not so close because no have affinity. "We have built links with people who may not always exist in families," explains the psychologist Eliana Alves, Regional Council of Psychology of Rio de Janeiro.
Check out a few of everyday life ingredients that can enhance bonding, and increasing - in fact - the union between relatives.
There are twelve tips - I will publish two each day.
1. Respect the limits of each one.
This is one of the hardest habits, it means accepting some differences. Each parents and children develop this sense of each way, says the psychiatrist individual family has its rhythm, its way of experiencing things in life. Both Paulo Zampieri. Try respect these peculiarities, this can help resolve family conflicts in a way much easier.
2. Prioritize good humor
Try seeing family conflicts with more disposition. Many of them come for reasons small and are fed by fatigue and stress of everyday life. Facing conflict is already better than avoiding them and must be with good humor - if not in a good mood every time will be similar to a complaint or reprimand, says Paulo Zampieri.